Whether you write your own vows or repeat traditional vows spoken by your officiant, nothing is more sacred than hearing a couple make promises to each other about how their commitment. Oftentimes, couples are so overwhelmed that this moment passes without really being in the moment. Here are some tips to help you be in the moment during your vows:
1. Face each other and hold hands. This sounds like a no-brainer, but it breaks my heart a little when I see the bride and groom recite their vows to their officiant instead of each other (most often when repeating vows after the officiant). If you hold hands, you’re more likely to remember to look at each other instead of your officiant.
2. Take a breath. The mood of your ceremony will change during your vows. Out come the kleenexes when your guests hear your heartfelt expression of love for each other. They are there for you, so it’s okay to take a moment to breathe before your vows.
3. What did they say? While your vows are a personal moment for the two of you, your guests should also be able to hear you. If your officiant is speaking into a microphone, have them aim it toward you during your vows (your voices matter more than theirs at that point). We also put a little lapel mic on the groom so that you’ll be able to hear your vows really clearly on your wedding video. If your officiant isn’t speaking into a microphone, it’s best for you to face each other when saying your vows so your voices aren’t projected away from your guests.